Dog eat dog sly smile

"Dogs are wise. They crawl away into a quiet corner and lick their wounds do not rejoin the world until they are whole once more."
- Agatha Christie



In a modern society where 'dog eat dog' principle rules the world, people are forced to join the 'dog fight game' just to survive...Some become successful because of their brand new bitchy or alpha - male personalities and multiple victories above those forced to become underdogs. Underdog is usually one who gets wounded and must crawl away to lick his wounds. Some of these wounded creatures (especially those who are ex-alphas or bitches) rejoin the world too soon because they can't resist their own desire to win the game and regain lost leading positions... Both, winners and losers are members of same pack...they just hold different positions.

On the other side, there are some 'stray dog' personalities represented by those who don't bite until they get bitten. Stay dogs wander the streets of this world alone, they don't belong to any pack and they usually don't become very successful but they keep their freedom...

21st century can be called 'The Dog's Century' because, whether you like it or not - you're forced to become a dog...The only question is: -What kind of dog do you choose to become?

People with no heart

Several days ago two kangaroos from Belgrade ZOO were murdered and their death is already used as material for making "support" group called Justice for a kangaroo . This group 'accidentally' has name similar to the writing that recently became popular for the second time. The original writing demanded justice for Uros, twenty-something old guy who got ten years sentence for attacking the police officer with the torch during the soccer game.
What I don't understand is this use of similar sentence in two totally different cases, not to mention that this group which demands justice for a kangaroo is obviously made by pranksters. This whole thing may be fun for some people, but it is a little strange to use almost the same words in order to protect someone who almost killed a human being and poor animals which were victims of some guys who wanted to get rich easily. Creating this fb group to supposedly protect kangaroo is like suggesting people that there is no difference between attackers and victims, and heartless posts by people who joined the group certainly prove that what we are experiencing here is shortage of compassion, and shortage of feelings in general.

Indifference instead of hate

In time we hate that which we often fear.
- William Shakespeare


People are used to say that they hate something if they just strongly dislike it, are frightened or just don't understand it. Several days ago, word 'hate' was very popular here in Belgrade. There were groups which expressed their hate by beating foreign tourists, the same groups threatened they will beat homosexuals as well...Once more, ignorance won.Those people who had different opinion used the word 'hate' in an attempt to describe the attackers, 'driven by hate' was the most frequently used phrase. Shakespeare said that 'hate' is just synonym for 'fear' and fear is one of the strongest emotions. Intensity of hate/fear can be compared to intensity of love, and both hate and love can make someone feel really important to himself or herself.
Love is an emotion, hate/fear is an emotion....Indifference, pure and complete indifference is worse because it represents total absence of emotions. Indifference can not feed anybody, nobody can feel more important by ignoring someone...Indifference doesn't radiate anything, it's just lack of feelings - some kind of wide spread emptiness.

Crossroads?

Few days ago, I had a very strong need to write about love and friendship from the point of view when a person is at the crossroads where the only possible way out is to choose between two options: to keep friends and lose lover or to keep lover and be prepared to lose friends... I couldn't do it properly because I just tried one of the options in practice when I was in my early twenties. So, I wasn't able to completely understand the problem or, put it this way, a need to make a choice. Recently, I was forced to think again about it.

I guess everyone tried one of the two options mentioned above in practice, and there is not insignificant number of those who tried to experiment with both. But as people become more mature, it becomes obvious that things are not always simple, and that there is no need to cut off anybody, neither lover nor friends. At least, I used to think that way but I'm not sure anymore because I missed to notice that one more option existed as well.

What I did have recently was experience which actually made me think about the matter one more time because that other, missed option kicked me right in the face. Being in a serious relationship myself (at least, I thought it was serious), I experienced that feeling of being buried alive because a very large number of my friends just forgot about my existence at the very moment I moved to my ex-boyfriend's apartment. That type of rejection was really new to me, it was like making a step into the unknown and that 'unknown' left me with the really big question mark hanging above my head. I understand that my friends must have based their opinions on some kind of prejudice but I still don't have a clue...

Why it is so hard to make things work in a way which allows someone to keep both - their lover and their friends? If things are not black and white and people do grow up at some time of their life, why do they still behave like teenagers and in their late thirties or forties still show high level of immaturity by presuming that their friends made a choice between love and friendship? Why are people still ready to make 'decisions' instead of others and behave according to that imagined decisions?

Alice in Wonderland

Every dream has it's final scene and little girls always find some way out from unpleasant situations...Is that so in the real life? Traces of fairy tales are still cut deep inside many women, girls grew up and never stopped to believe that sometime they will get out of trouble just like Alice did...In real life, Alice doesn't wake up and, figuratively speaking, fairy tale ends after Queen's sentence: - Off with her head!